What you should build your marriage upon?  

Lanochka 6/30/2007 9:26 am Last Read: 7/10/2008 4:18 am	I would really like to know your opinion on this: which option would you chose if you were give only 2? 1) Love - Passionate, crazy, like when you feel that you cannot live without each other even 1 moment when being far, when you dont care about any difference in habbits, opinions, interests that you have.... - but remember: such love usually doesnt last forever 2) or Friendship - Understanding each other with half a word, being comfortable with each other, share same interests, opinions, habbits, etc... - but no passion, just a calm friendly relationship? Sure it would have been much better to combine those 2 - but it aint usually happen in real life... If you already had a good friend - would you marry him / her or would you wait for your passionate Love? True Love Friendship
Jeffman8 115 posts  6/30/2007 2:01 pm	I have to vote for friendship since I have had friendships turn into relationships that were great. True love can disolve into comfort, and when those differences (that were not a problem before) resurface, there can be some major issues. I have had both types and the relationships that started with friendships felt more fulfilling and rewarding, as well as they lasted longer. Of course it depends greatly on how the friendship is. If there is a hidden sexual tension or something like that, the odds of it turning into something much more is very good. If it is a total buddy buddy type of friendship, where you see him as one of the girls, then it probably would not be as good, but there is still potential.
Lanochka 25 posts  7/1/2007 5:03 am	thank you so much Jeff! you gave me a good reason to confirm my intention to look for a FRIEND here i wonder what other people think?...
Lanochka 25 posts  7/4/2007 4:02 am	of cause everybody WANT to have both... but unfortunately it doesnt happen very often... so you are saying that you will not marry and will be waiting for something which may never come?